Both of you are traditionalists and there are many similarities in what you value. You each put faith in the past and trust what has worked for many generations before you. The two of you share an appreciation for the rules and feel comforted, rather than restricted, by institutions and traditions. You are likely to feel a strong connection with this person based on your fundamental similarities in values and approaches.
At heart, you are both deeply practical and logical people. You have a strong sense of duty, and will both play your parts as morally upstanding and socially responsible members of your communities. You both embrace responsibility, and seeing your commitments through to completion is an ethical obligation for both of you. It is unlikely that you would carelessly let the other person down.
You have somewhat different values when it comes to relationships. You tend to be more emotionally distant, and may hurt your counterpart with your blunt and sometimes tactless words. Your counterpart tends to take criticism personally and may get overly emotional and defensive in the face of negative feedback. In your defense, you may not understand the depth of your counterpart’s people-orientation and desire for emotional connection, and may not realize that you are being insensitive. To smooth the waters, you may have to dig deep into your feelings and find an emotional connection, which is your counterpart’s preferred way of navigating the world.
Your counterpart, on the other hand, tends to be intensely interested in people and are eager to serve them in practical ways. They are compassionate and emotionally engaged, and they seek harmony in their relationships. Unlike you, they prioritize closeness and connection and tend to over-worry if they are not getting the intimacy they desire.
Fundamentally, you counterpart tends to show affection much more naturally than you do. While you may initially be attracted to your counterpart’s kind and tender heart, there’s a chance that you will feel frustrated by their complicated emotions. On the flip side, your partner may feel unfulfilled by your objective and tough-minded approach.
There’s an opportunity here to introduce one another to new ways of thinking. You both excel in sticking to values that are important to you, but your counterpart can help you understand the emotional consequences of your behavior, while you can help your counterpart lead with the head instead of the heart. The challenge for you is to not get too annoyed if your partner is a little too needy or becomes defensive to the point of passive-aggression if you criticize their habits or beliefs.