People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ISTJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.
People of the following types are likely to strike the ISTJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ISTJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ISTJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.
ISTJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ISTJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.
People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ISTJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ISTJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ISTJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.
In relationships, the ISTJ is loyal and reliable. ISTJs have a strong respect for tradition and often assume typical gender roles in their relationships, with male ISTJs taking on the role of provider and female ISTJs caring for home and family. ISTJs value stability, and tend to appreciate relationships that they can count on over the long term. They keep their promises and expect others to do the same.
ISTJs are resoundingly logical and can be stubborn once they've decided on the best course of action. They usually like things done their way. Often the "proper" course of action is self-evident to the ISTJ, who may have little patience with unconventional approaches.
ISTJs tend to work hard to ensure that their families are provided for and that they are living up to their own expectations of what a good partner should be. They are typically most satisfed with a partner who can recognize and appreciate the hard work they put in to contribute to the household.
As parents, ISTJs are firm in their expectations and consistent in enforcing rules. They rarely dote on their children, but provide stability, structure, and the practical necessities of life. They may be strict and often emphasize traditional values like responsibility, loyalty, and obedience.
ISTJ parents want to pass on traditions and teach their children how to fit into society. They expect their children to be as dutiful as they are, and concern themselves with teaching their children to work hard, respect authority, and care for their material possessions.
ISTJs communicate in a direct and straightforward way. They are specific and oriented to details, and often communicate primarily to move a task along. The ISTJ typically has a great memory for detail and has a vast storehouse of practical, factual information. Most ISTJs don’t talk for the sake of talking, but will share their knowledge when they see a practical need for it. ISTJs are often no-nonsense and action-oriented in their communication; they tell what they know and what needs to be done.
